When your going on a first date, it’s all about location, you want to go somewhere that doesn’t create those awkward moments of silence while still allowing you to communicate and really get a feel for each other. The first date, as many say, is the most important date and can been seen in some ways as a non formal job interview, this is where both parties decide if they like each other or not and the first impression is the one that lasts. The first date shows you what you can most likely expect from the other person in the future. You want your first impression to go smoothly but without overdoing it, as first dates are the easiest date to overdo. I have come up with a couple great suggestions on what to do for a first date so you won’t be left alone trying to think of something to say the entire time.
My personal favorite first date activity would have to be kayaking or paddle boarding. It’s fun, it’s outside, and creates a perfect environment for getting to know someone without things getting awkward. Chances are your conversations will be focused on the activity at hand but it keeps you communicating and working together, which is what relationships are all about. On top of being fun, physical outdoor activities create healthy bonding experiences between people that won’t be forgotten, unlike going to bar and getting drinks, or watching a movie, which can lead to awkward moments of silence and second guessing. After a day of kayaking, the date is over and you can safely go back home and call it a day, leaving both of you thinking and talking about how much fun it was and wanting more.
Another great first date activity could be something like a farmers market our outdoor shopping area like a flea market. This is a great way to start all kinds of conversations and keep them going. Keeping the communication flowing is essential in having a successful first date, and keeping it positive is key. Talking about personal things constantly can get overwhelming and boring, leaving your partner uninterested and un wanting. There is so much stuff at local street markets that you can start conversations about everything, plus, there are usually vendors that offer activities such as palm reading or getting your picture drawn, etc. You can also walk way with a unique item you can use to remember your first date if it goes well.
Just going to a bar or restaurant for a first date is a horrible first date idea, it creates to much personal face to face discussion time and the conversation can get silent and awkward fast. Most likely you will both be frantically trying to think of discussion topics and end up talking about personal things you would rather not, not because you want to, but because you don’t know what else to talk about. These kinds of static conversations can get boring fast and cause both parties to lose interest and look for a way out. If you just went to a bar, chances are your both going to be a little buzzed afterwards and you may make some stupid moves to fast or say something you wish you didn’t. Bars are places people usually go to get drunk and or laid. If you really like this other person you need to get the bar out of your mind as a place to go for a first date, unless your just trying to get laid, then it’s the perfect place to go. Intimate dinners & bars are for when you comfortably know each other already and have enough shared life experience to keep the conversation going without feeling like your expected to anything afterward. I would say a 3rd or 4th date is good for an intimate dinner if your really clicking from the get go.
If you want to build a real and lasting relationship, it all starts with the first date, and finding a healthy activity that allows you to experience life as a couple is key. Try to make your first date adventurous, healthy and fun, and remember, stay safe.